The Truth About ADHD - the FREE docuseries begins today, and I’m inviting you to join me in furthering the mission of educating people across the globe on the issue of kids health and ADHD.Read More
Right now all over the world there is a wave of change happening. Doctors, experts, neurologists, psychologists, naturopaths, teachers, mums and so many more people are coming together and rising! These are important conversations that we need to have. Too many kids and children are being diagnosed or misdiagnosed with ADHD.Read More
The healing that you seek likes in the heart and the eyes of your child. They have chosen you to be their mother because they knew that you were the one person who can change this; you hold the key. Be brave enough dear one to allow yourself to open the door to your shadows.Read More
Then these two podcasts are for you! The first podcast was recorded for The Faster Than Normal Podcast with Peter Shankman and I'm so proud of this interview! It really highlights the journey that we've been on a family from feeling so embarrassed and fearful of the diagnosis, to feeling super proud and enlightened!Read More
"I believe that ADHD kids are here to change things. To shift old-fashioned parenting and schooling systems. They are here to heal us and make us see that we have been given this child for a reasonRead More
When we are in true alignment with ourselves, when we stop relying on our strength, when we set out our intentions and listen to our intuition – that's when the miracle happens. There is healing in love, compassion and forgiveness and there is light inside each and everyone one of us that wants to shine. I want to show as many women as possible that right now you have the power to do all of this. You have the power to make a life for yourself that is happy, abundant, joyful and present!Read More
I have a very exciting message to share with you today! I'm going to start sharing my essential oil journey with you, and I'm going to incorporate them into my sister circles here in Perth and through online webinars for all the people that I connect with worldwide.
I've always shared the oils that we use, but until now I haven't given people the option to buy the oils from me, and to be supported through their new journey. I'm incredibly passionate about helping families transform their lives and to learn to live, love & laugh with ADHD.Read More
I have lived through a lens of fear for most of my life. I think even as a child I often lived through a lens of fear, and this ultimately shaped who I became; until now. It's hard sometimes to see life through a lens of love when there is so much fear around. We hear about fearful things all the time on the news, on the radio and all around us. We can be afraid of letting our children out of our site; we can be consumed with fear about our children's future and their health and well-being. Over the last few months, I've come to learn that no one can be truly happy when they are living a life in fear.Read More
I was diagnosed with ADHD and PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder) just a few months ago, but I've struggled with both of these 'differences' for the last 25 years of my life. PMDD is PMT's scary sister that can leave women feeling depressed, anxious, overwhelmed and unable to cope.Read More
Wherever there is light, there is dark. Life makes us walk in the dark days, so we can appreciate the days that are full of joy. When the sun comes out, we always feel happier. You can find yourself just closing your eyes and letting the beautiful sunbeam shine on your face; it truly is magical. And even on the darkest of nights, the stars still twinkle. Sometimes we can just stop and stare into space, looking up into the vastness of the universe. The beautiful stars that twinkle give us hope and many of us make wishes on them.Read More
This week's video blog is all about spirituality and oppositional defiance disorder (ODD). The label 'Oppositional defiance disorder' makes us look at these children in an entirely different way.
It's a label full of fear. We don't need to be fearful of these children; we just need to love them.
Wow, it’s been a while since I sent out a blog, times flies when you're having fun and being a mum to an ADHD child is never dull that's for sure! If you follow me on social media, you'll have seen that things are getting very exciting at the Susy Parker camp! If you’ve missed any of that, I thought I would send you an update to let you know that I'm working on a FREE Ebook for parents.Read More
I remember the day my daughter, Sarah, was diagnosed with ADHD like it was yesterday. Even though this was three years ago, I still remember all the feelings and emotions running up to that day. I got up extra early that morning and made a special effort with my clothes. Instead of my usual throw-anything-on look, I put on smart clothes, some makeup, accessories and found a big smile. "If I looked well dressed and presented, maybe the psychologist would think that I was a good mother". Maybe then, I could allow myself to believe I was a good mother. But, nothing could have been further from the truth.Read More
For most of my adult life, I've been friends with fear. To the outside world, it doesn't look I’m friends with fear. I seem confident, happy, enthusiastic, bright and shiny, but my inner world is often full of fear and self-doubt. I've always been the same. One of the only people who truly see’s my fear is my husband, but I’m not even sure that he fully see’s it - I hide it so well.Read More
Two years ago, our life looked very different. The situation with our daughter who was seven at the time consumed my daily thoughts, and when I imagined our future all I could see was darkness. Even the pediatrician was asking me the darkest of questions:Read More
Two years ago I was going through one of the hardest times in my life, yet most days I uploaded photographs of my wonderful life and kids onto social media, and hashtagged about family, love and happiness. Today I want to share the real life behind the photographs to prove to people that behind most happy social media photographs is a world of hurt. These are my #reallife photographs!
My two daughters building sandcastles in the palm tree shadows in Noosa, Australia. I remember hashtagging the living daylights out of this photo. Hashtag daughters, hashtag happy, hashtag family. But what a load of tosh that was as I was sad, unhappy and struggling to parent my eldest daughter, who at the time was seven years old. This picture was taken two years ago when we were right in the middle of our ADHD journey with Sarah. We were on a road trip from Cairns to Brisbane and shortly after this picture was taken I completely lost my shit! It was a sweltering day and being so hot and sticky seemed to amplify the situation! Sarah had a massive screaming fit; I ended up screaming back at her, and then the other two kids started crying. I also started crying and as we drove off I noticed a family sitting on the deck of their house. I saw their faces; they had witnessed everything. I hated myself, and I hated who I had become.
This picture was in Cairns during the same road trip. It was a beautiful warm night, so the children ran off to play in the Esplanade lagoon by the beach. I was so used to losing Sarah, but on this night I decided not to be my usual 'helicopter mum', and to be more relaxed like all the other parents. I watched Sarah and her sister happily play in the pool with all the other kids and snapped this picture and posted to Instagram, hashtagging again about happiness and family. Minutes later, I realised that I had lost Sarah. I started to panic and ran around everywhere shouting her name. I was now definitely not like the other calm Mums who stood around chatting with children at their feet. I spent the next five minutes (which felt like a lifetime) running around frantically looking for Sarah. I eventually found her, screamed at her and found myself once again feeling like the worst Mum ever.
The picture I took of Sarah when she was going through her ‘car surfing’ faze. It was during a time when I was trying to embrace the ‘crazy’. I had no idea what the hell to do about her behaviour and shouting and timeouts were only making things worse. So, I tried to go with it - but this also didn’t work! Moments after posting it to Instagram and hashtagging about embracing my 'fun loving' daughter, Sarah had a meltdown. It took us about forty minutes to get her into the car. She was screaming, running off, hiding and shouting at us all. I cried buckets and told myself what a failure I was as a Mum.
I think it's so important for Mums to know that behind most of those 'happy photos' someone is going through something that they are to scared to share. They may have fallen out of love with their husband; they may hate being a mother and want so badly to go back to how things were when they were single. They may have had the worst row with their partner, family, friends or kids. They may be suffering from crippling anxiety, depression or loneliness. We all have something; every single one of us.
I wrote 'Saving Sarah' for all the Mums that are doing what I was doing. The Mums who are too scared to tell anyone the truth about their child. The Mums who hide what's going on because they feel they will be judged or their child will be judged. I wrote it for the Mums who are struggling so much to cope that have found themselves on antidepressants just to be able to function. To the Mums who’s relationships are falling apart because all they think, talk and dream about is their child. The Mums who are self-loathing and telling themselves that they are a failure. I wrote it for you.
You are not a failure; you are a hero. A hero because you are going through this pain every single day of your life. A hero for trying so hard to protect your child, your family and your relationship. You are at this point in your life, because your life has something to show you. It may not feel like it now, but this journey will eventually teach you something about you, your past, your life and everything that you are. You are being tested right now, but you can do this - the Universe has your back!
And remember; 'no one's life is as perfect as their social media', we are all going through something. Every, single, one of us. #reallife.
The last two weeks have been pretty incredible not only for me but also for little Sarah. My three very best friends from the UK have been staying with us. They left their partners and kids and travelled 9000 miles so we could share some very special memories together.
We have known each other for 25 years, and they are like my sisters. I love the safeness and familiarity that comes with that, and Sarah has loved it too. We emigrated to Australia almost three years ago, and while we love having visitors stay with us, Sarah finds the change in routine hard.
My last blog 'Inside the mind of an ADHD woman' was the first time I have shared what goes on inside my head. I guess it's not something that people do, but after I'd posted it, I felt a huge weight lifted, and I felt lighter in some way.
I've had so many women contact me and tell me they felt the same (some men too); they told me how much the article helped, so I'm so glad I wrote it. I think as humans we feel somewhat 'normal' when we are connected to other human beings. Connection is everything. And in this crazy, fast-moving world that we now live in, we need human connection more than ever.
I have never been diagnosed with ADHD, but after my daughter was diagnosed two years ago, I came to realise that I probably have ADHD too! Every ADHD book I have read feels like it's written for me and I tick every box in the ADHD questionnaires.
For me, it's been like an awakening. Suddenly my haphazard, dreamy, chaotic and at times, manic personality all made sense. For the first time, I can truly embrace myself instead of trying to be like everyone else. Finally, I am enough (well I think I am but I change my mind all the time)!